Why self-reflection is a key element to happiness.

Confucius says: “the man who says he can and the man who says he can’t are both right”.

This quote by Confucius is trying to express the idea that the person who says he can is more confident and is more likely to succeed and the man who says he can't is more likely to fail because his attitude is already self-defeating and he is likely to give up.

What we say to ourselves really matters!

Right now, people are going through extreme amounts of stress and anxiety. With Corona Virus taking hold of people’s ability to run their businesses, see their families and more importantly, they have lost the sense of certainty.

See below a fantastic tool and exercise for everyone to do!

The Wheel of Life – Self-reflection tool:

A great way is by utilising something called “The Wheel of Life” which is a great tool to help make you aware of where you’re at right now. After completing this exercise, you will feel in more control of your life, having a sense of certainty of what is going well in your life and what you should focus more energy on. It's all about continuous improvement. I suggest doing this every 3 – 6 months depending on how you feel. See below on how to complete “The Wheel of Life.”

Step 1 – Set up:

Draw or print off this wheel.

Step 2 – Complete the wheel:

Go to a private place with no distractions where you can spend 15 minutes to reflect. Score your satisfaction levels from 1 to 10 against each of the categories. To help you with each section, see below a guild to each section:

Business, Career & Studies: Is your career where you want it to be by now? Are you heading in the right direction?

Finance & Wealth: Are you earning enough income to satisfy your current needs? Are you financial setup for future growth in wealth?

Health & Fitness: How physically healthy are you? Are you satisfied with your level of fitness? Are you satisfied with your diet?

Social & Friends: Are your friends supportive of you? Are you engaging friends and socialising to your satisfaction levels?

Family: Is your family supportive of you? Are you supportive of your family?

Love: Do you feel loved? How often are you expressing love to others?

Recreation & Fun: Are you enjoying your life and making it fun? Are you satisfied with the level of activity that you do?

Contribution: How would others rate your contribution to society or them as individuals?

Personal Growth: How focused are you on personal growth? Are you satisfied with your direction? Are you trying new experiences and seeking to learn?

Spiritual: How connected are you to the inner and outer world? Are you satisfied with your relationship with your spiritual being?

Self-Image: Do you think of your abilities highly? Do you respect and love yourself? Do you appreciate yourself?

Step 3 – Reflection:

Take a moment to reflect on each score you have given yourself and ask yourself:

  • Why did you score yourself in each category the way you did?

  • What is my ideal score for each category to achieve in the next month, 3 months, 6 months, one year?

  • Where are my most significant gaps in satisfaction levels?

  • Which area of my life do I primarily want to focus on to enhance my satisfaction levels?

  • An important thing to remember is that this is your wheel of life. Is your current wheel crooked or is it balanced?

Step 4 – Take Action!

Now that you have the wheel in motion, this is the perfect time to start setting out your goals. To enhance your satisfaction, what are the specific actions or steps that you are going to take? Write down precisely what you would like to achieve in the areas you feel are lacking, remembering not to neglect the areas that are going well!

Keep this wheel somewhere close so you can easily refer to it daily.